Sunday, November 27, 2011

You Can't Pass Down Your Tweets

A while ago I wrote a story on my blog about my great grandfather.

Briefly, he left for this country from Italy in the early 1900's.  His supposed intention was to send for his wife and children after he got settled.   But, his family never heard from him again.

His daughter, my grandmother, came to America when she was 16 years old to look for him.

According to my mother, my grandmother said she never found out what happened to him.  My mother also said that my grandmother never would talk about him.

I often think how sad it was that my mother and her siblings never got to know their grandfather or really anything about him.

Thinking about the untold story of my great grandfather made me think about the relationship that I have with my children.   I wonder how much of myself I reveal to them.

My children are all adults now and in their 30's.  They have children of their own.

I thought about how involved I was in their lives when they were little kids.   I knew everything about them.  I knew what they liked to eat, what they like to wear, what their favorite T.V. shows were, what made them laugh and what made them cry.

I could tell when they weren't feeling well, probably even before they knew they weren't feeling well.
And of course I always knew where they were.

I suppose I started to lose such close connections with them when they became teenagers and were allowed more freedom.

Suddenly, or so it seemed, they were picking out their own clothes, spending more time in their rooms with headphones on, listening to music that I was not familiar with, and talking less to me and more to their friends.

I feel as though there is a whole chapter of their lives that I know nothing about.  I would say that period of time would be from high school and college and up until they married.

Now we have entered into a new phase of our relationship.  We can relate to each other as parents and adults.

I am sad, though, that there are parts of their lives and parts of my life that we may never get to share.

A few years ago I picked up a set of diaries at an auction.  They were written in the 1920's by a young mother.  The diaries were filled with details about her daily routine.  She would start off writing about what the weather was like,  she would talk about who visited, what the children did, what she made for dinner.   She never missed a day.  I became very engrossed in this woman's life.   I found it fascinating.
I wondered how her grandchildren could part with such treasures.

Now people tweet about their daily routines, but the tweets disappear like a poof of smoke and wind up somewhere out there in cyberspace.  

My memories of my children as little kids are beginning to fade.  I wish that I had kept a journal.

Perhaps someday I will print out all of my blog postings, and have them bound.  Perhaps my grandchildren might want to know a little more about their grandmother someday.

For those of you who read yesterday's  post  regarding my experience with Kohl's,  I went back this morning and convinced the nice customer service lady that Kohl's should give me back my $15.00 in Kohl's cash.
So I am not angry at Kohl's anymore. :)


  1. Lynda, I created a gmail account for each of my sons, and periodically send them notes about the things they do as they grow up.  One day when they are older, I will give these email accounts to them to read my messages, and hopefully they will add a new dimension to their memories.

  2. That is a great idea!   I am going to pass that one on to my kids.  I could also use their email accounts to send little snippets of my own to each one.