Sunday, October 9, 2011

Blogtoberfest My First Entry

As I glanced at my blog archive, I noticed a steady decline in the number of posts I have written each month.

In an effort to be more dedicated and disciplined, I have decided to participate in Blogtoberfest 2011.

The goal is to attempt to write and post each and every day of the month of October.   I have joined in a little late,  but this will be quite a challenge for me,  and I am willing to give it a try.

Even though I don't know the other 270 participants of Blogtorberfest,  I feel that in some way we have all entered into a committed relationship of a sort.

When I think about it,  I realize that I have had many different types of committed relationships during my life.

When I was very young, I probably didn't treat the commitments as seriously as I should have.

I remember an incident when I was in my teens.  My best friend and I made plans to spend a weekend together.  My aunt and uncle had a house near the beach and generously offered to let us stay with them.

Her parents drove us down on a Friday afternoon.

At the time I was dating a young man and I told him where he could find me and Betty that Saturday.

I knew that Betty probably wouldn't like the idea, so I didn't tell her that I had "invited" my boyfriend to visit.

As Betty and I were laying on our beach blankets, chatting and enjoying the beautiful day, my boyfriend showed up with a couple of his friends.

I tried to act surprised, but Betty knew that it was not by chance that he showed up.   She was very upset with me.   So much so, that she found a phone booth and called her parents to come and pick her up.

She never spoke to me again.

At the time I thought that Betty over reacted to the whole thing.
When I look back at it now, I realize that I was the one who was not being a very good friend.

I learned a valuable lesson from that incident about commitments, especially as they relate to friendships and relationships.

At this stage in my life, I also realize the amount of effort it takes to keep a commitment.  I also realize that sometimes relationships just don't work out, no matter how committed one person is to the other.

So, I have chosen to commit to Blogtoberfest, but I hope "Betty" will forgive me if I don't make it every day.  Trust me, it won't be because my "boyfriend" showed up.  :)

To see more entries in Blogtober fest click here


  1. I hope you get through the challenge, and a very charming post. Though I know where she was coming from, I can't understand "Betty" never talking to you again...

  2. As always, well done. I find now that I am older I cherish the friendships I have and have committed to keeping them alive. It takes work but is worth it.