And The Sun
In the past three weeks my siblings and I have faced and have had to make many serious, difficult decisions regarding our brother.
Even though the six of us were raised by the same parents, in the same environment, we each developed our own unique personalities. However, the more I think about this, the more I realize that what each one of us did was learn how to cope with the effects of our childhood in different ways. The result being that outwardly, that is what we present to others, it may seem as though we are not alike in any way. But, actually, on the inside, we each carry identical scars.
Because we are five individual individuals, our opinions and concerns have differed lately. But ultimately, in some dysfunctional caring functional way, deep down inside, our symbiotic relationship prevails.
The sibling relationship is one of the most powerful relationships present in my world. Over the years, I have drifted in and out of connection with each of them - though never losing the connection with any of them at any time. They are the ones who have been on the whole ride with me (and I with them) and they get what we came from. I know I am fortunate b/c we share a bond of respect and love. We have our differences, yes, but, when it gets right down to it, we are always available to each other. They are really my truest friends.
ReplyDeleteI wonder, was the respect and love you had for each other instilled in you by your parents verbal teachings? Did you learn by example?
ReplyDeleteAlthough I am certain that it was an unconscious behavior, I believe my mother fostered our sibling rivalry. I suspect this occurred because of her own deep-seated issues.
We are a complex bunch.