tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post4612996825891495725..comments2024-02-16T19:50:32.317-05:00Comments on Lynda Grace An Hour Away: A-Z Challenge N is for Maybe Another Timelyndagracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13530605081989558341noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-58679768765777626162014-04-27T11:51:32.642-04:002014-04-27T11:51:32.642-04:00Though I have gotten much better in recent years, ...Though I have gotten much better in recent years, I am still working on the how to say "no" thing (like you, I am not comfortable outright making something up). It's kind of ironic, or something, that part of the reason I have gotten better at it is that there are several people in my life who "refuse" to take a vague or polite "no" for an answer. For instance, one person when told that I can't do something because I'm busy or have other plans, will ask what the plans are, ask if I can change them, offer to change the event she's asking me to participate in and on and on and on. After many go-rounds such as that, I finally just found the courage to say a firm and direct "no" to things I did not want to do with her. Of course, then she wants to know why not and I have learned (slowly) to be blunt in the most compassionate possible ways...It's been a learning process--let's hope for both of us--for sure. :)Masked Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08197019009052401812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-2780728162739378722014-04-17T10:19:36.118-04:002014-04-17T10:19:36.118-04:00Your welcome. I am learning from your posts!Your welcome. I am learning from your posts!lyndagracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530605081989558341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-49981667850483605002014-04-17T00:28:33.411-04:002014-04-17T00:28:33.411-04:00Nice that you're linking back to A to Z. Not e...Nice that you're linking back to A to Z. Not everyone does :-) <br /><br />Thanks for the visit today!Gene'Ohttp://gno112.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-58107211320981975552014-04-16T17:12:54.570-04:002014-04-16T17:12:54.570-04:00Thank you for your insight. I didn’t think about t...Thank you for your insight. I didn’t think about that particular explanation for the lady’s behavior. And thank you for understanding how I felt too. I happy to meet another knitter. I”ll have to get back to you about the mall date. :)lyndagracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530605081989558341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-46935363769966732592014-04-16T16:30:26.528-04:002014-04-16T16:30:26.528-04:00Having been through four daughters, I just say, &q...Having been through four daughters, I just say, "No." Your lady might be like me, with a li'l touch of dysthymia (chronic, low-grade depression). When she isn't feeling the grind, it's such a relief it's euphoric; when it's on her, all she can do is maintain basic functioning. You did well, taking tea but backing off of being instant besties. If the two of you are going to be true friends, that will grow slowly, as it should, and it'll mean more to both of you than a brittle whirlwind connection (how's that for mixed metaphors?). I'm a knitter, too! Wanna go to the mall? ;)Marian Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15842321321484056422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-13049382521873270632014-04-16T15:59:04.487-04:002014-04-16T15:59:04.487-04:00Thanks. I completely understand about the people-...Thanks. I completely understand about the people-pleasing need. lyndagracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530605081989558341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-64557704736606559172014-04-16T15:34:18.846-04:002014-04-16T15:34:18.846-04:00Great job on going to the knitting group. I'm ...Great job on going to the knitting group. I'm finally learning to say "no" to things. I'm a people-pleaser, and I feel like I'm letting them down.TaMara Sloanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10712928262166899676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-24568152922857649802014-04-16T14:07:53.606-04:002014-04-16T14:07:53.606-04:00Yes, after visiting your blog, I know that you do ...Yes, after visiting your blog, I know that you do have enough on your plate. People who come on too strong can either just be very friendly or as you said too needy. lyndagracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530605081989558341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-41651283031149196802014-04-16T11:53:42.515-04:002014-04-16T11:53:42.515-04:00No! is not a word I have trouble saying. Thank Goo...No! is not a word I have trouble saying. Thank Goodness cause I can't take on anything else. That lady would have put me off as well. Sounds too needy to me<br /><br />http://smidgensbitsandsnippets.blogspot.com/Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17406717262345866373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-71619584820906428402014-04-16T09:25:02.420-04:002014-04-16T09:25:02.420-04:00That’s very funny. You’re right I can always have ...That’s very funny. You’re right I can always have some kind of plan and besides sock rearranging can be very therapeutic.<br />lyndagracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530605081989558341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-53971029088778915422014-04-16T08:12:19.100-04:002014-04-16T08:12:19.100-04:00:-) It's obvious you're honest. My favor...:-) It's obvious you're honest. My favorite line is "I'm sorry but I have plans." If that means rearranging my sock drawer, than so be it. Sometimes we need our alone time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-7793470354650368832014-04-16T07:58:00.488-04:002014-04-16T07:58:00.488-04:00Yes, I would imagine teaching teenagers would requ...Yes, I would imagine teaching teenagers would require a firm voice and a no-nonsense No!lyndagracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530605081989558341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-40275750348816316582014-04-16T07:56:43.675-04:002014-04-16T07:56:43.675-04:00It’s interesting the woman runs hot and cold. At ...It’s interesting the woman runs hot and cold. At the next meeting she barely spoke to me. But I understand that is just her personality. Or perhaps she picked up on my hesitation to be best buds. lyndagracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530605081989558341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-24331088265055846702014-04-16T07:53:38.092-04:002014-04-16T07:53:38.092-04:00We have a 13 year old maltese fur ball. He is not...We have a 13 year old maltese fur ball. He is not subtle about letting us know what his wishes are. No puppy dog eyes from him. He talks. I can identify the tones of his barks. If he wants a treat he just asks :)lyndagracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530605081989558341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-57586628809451866092014-04-16T02:00:22.603-04:002014-04-16T02:00:22.603-04:00No has gotten easier the longer I've substitut...No has gotten easier the longer I've substituted. A good vague, "I'm not sure," or "I'll have to think about it," work great elsewhere.Liz A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16531953467834426316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-53152526262511810502014-04-16T00:24:41.684-04:002014-04-16T00:24:41.684-04:00Good for you for breaking into a group that's ...Good for you for breaking into a group that's been together for 10 years. I would probably have been a little reluctant to do this as well. I hope it turns out to be something you really enjoy. I think it is nice that this lady took you under her wing, but the multiple invitations, so quick do seem a little much. Keep us posted!Fancy Rancihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15724462712069515901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1078324787471983933.post-31318914627347514162014-04-16T00:17:22.892-04:002014-04-16T00:17:22.892-04:00Good for you for going to the knitting group; I th...Good for you for going to the knitting group; I think I'd be a little leery too with the lady and her friendship; I'm one to slowly warm up to things and people so I would have felt uncomfortable with her forthrightness trying to be "your best friend for life."<br /><br />I'm really good at saying "no" to telemarketers and those (except children) that come to the door selling things. I struggle with saying "no" to things asked for me to do at church even though I might be stressed and stretched, but can pretty much say no without feeling too guilty.<br /><br />I can say "no" to hubby or son if I know its not the best thing they are suggesting.<br /><br />I can never say "no" to those puppy dog eyes of Koda when he follows me into the kitchen and expects a snack :)<br /><br />bettybettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06323135450742337670noreply@blogger.com