Sunday, October 30, 2011

I'll Have Mine Half Full Please

I recently received a phone call from a friend.   I'll call this friend Dora Doom.

Dora proceeded to tell me about her recent visit with our mutual friend, who shall be known here as Nancy Nice.

Dora seemed very agitated as she told me about her recent visit with Nancy.
Her version:
     "So I went to visit Nancy yesterday.   She's really not doing well. She has gotten so thin.  I personally think that she is a little depressed.  Do you know she is now a blond?  While we were visiting she got a phone call from that guy that she thinks she is in love with.  Ugh! I can't stand the man.  I just don't understand what she sees in him.  I mean the man is a writer.  What is that?  A writer?  Sounds like one of those dreamer types to me.   I can't believe she has stayed with him this long. I mean hello? Have you never heard of the book "He's Just Not That Into You?"  I am really worried about her."

Now I have to say, Dora is really not a bad person and actually does care a great deal about Nancy.  But Dora is a worrier.  She worries about everyone and everything.

Sometimes when I talk to Dora, her worrying becomes infectious.   And then I start worrying.

After I got off of the phone with Dora, I started to worry about Nancy.  A blond?  What if Dora is right and Nancy winds up getting hurt by that guy.  Maybe she is depressed.

So I decided to give Nancy a call.

Nancy's end of our phone conversation:
"Oh hi, Lynda.  I have been meaning to call you.   I wanted to let you know the good news.  "That Guy" has asked me to marry him.   We got engaged last night.   I'll tell you, I have never been happier in my life.   I have been on weight watchers and I get to the gym at least 4 times a week.  Yes, I have lost 40 pounds and I feel great!  Yes, it's true, I have changed my hair.  It's just a shade lighter, but I wanted a little change, you know, just to go along with my new body.  (she giggled).
Oh and one more piece of good news.  The book "That Guy" has been working on...it's being published.  Isn't that exciting?"

Now I have to say, Nancy is very laid back and can be somewhat of a pollyanna.  She tends to be very trusting.   And she has gotten her heart broken a few times before.   Her favorite thing to say is "...but he/she is really a good person".

Something I noticed, and found interesting was that each conversation affected my mood.  When I got off the phone with Dora, I felt anxious and a little upset.   After speaking to Nancy, though, my spirits were lifted and I felt happy.
So two different versions by two totally different personality types.

But which one is closest to reality?

Dora's version which is affected by her caring, nurturing and sometimes overly worrisome attitude?
Or Nancy's version which is affected by her optimistic and sometimes overly zealous attitude?

Disclosure:
To make my point and demonstrate how different outlooks such as "the glass is half full/half empty" affects everyone, and may even effect the truth, I have taken a few liberties with this tale.  And of course the names have been changed to protect the innocent.   That would be Dora Doom, Nancy Nice and That Guy.

4 comments:

  1. I love it! What a great way to demonstrate how the mood of others and their perceptions of things affects each of us. I really love how you created this scenario to warn us about being affected by toxic thoughts. That may seem like and exaggeration, but even a little bit of pessimism can drag on your outlook for the day!

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  2. I love it! What a great way to demonstrate that the moods and perceptions of others can affect us. It is true that when you have an uplifting attitude, i can be contagious, so can the negativity/worry factor. I l know I gravitate towards the positive. I wonder how many of us can see ourselves in each of your friends? If we can be reflective and resourceful, we should choose to be the Nancy Nice. Thanks for this post!

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  3. It's amazing how other people's moods and perceptions can change the way we think isn't it? That was a great story to illustrate that fact =)

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  4. Charlene, the PolarbloggerNovember 1, 2011 at 5:45 AM

    This is altogether true, I agree. You have illustrated the situations/moods and effects perfectly.

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